Perhaps many of us agree with the value of building our children’s self-esteem – another positive benefit that has emerged in recent times.
Could there be any traps in doing this?
The subtle ‘Idol’ trap lies in praising our children in a way that instead of building their self-esteem or encouraging their development, it leads to them becoming ’idols’ (kings and queens) or more simply ‘idle’ (unmotivated underachievers).
Over-praising means having too much enthusiasm or rewards for too little effort or skill.
It gives our children a very unhelpful perspective on themselves and life. Children who are overpraised may find it hard to get going or to work to achieve things in their lives.
In this program we are working on how we can encourage our children not just to ‘believe in themselves’ but also to ‘work on themselves’ – developing their skills and knowledge.
If you’re interested in these issues
you may like to join the ‘Building Stronger Families’ community
or start creating a stronger happier family with ‘The 10 Secrets’ Family Program.
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What to do next?
- Read about other ‘unhappiness traps’
