One of the great opportunities in today’s world is the value placed on the importance of loving and caring for our children.
However, ‘overloving’ is a trap. Overloving means loving too much or in a way that is harmful to our children. It may be over-focusing on their interests, over-providing for their needs or over-involved with their lives.
How can loving our children ever be too much? I hear you ask. Surely, loving our children is a good thing. And it is.
There is no doubt that loving our children is beneficial to their wellbeing – all the psychological research supports this. Overloving occurs when this is taken to an extreme and our relationship with our children become all about them.
There are two dangers in overloving.
The first if that by overloving our children we may teach them to believe that the world is all about them and they start living very ‘me’ focused lives.
The second danger is that as parents by trying too hard to give all we have and provide all our children desire, we may end up dropping with exhaustion ourselves.
In the ‘Strong Love’ Parenting program we work on healthy ways to be deeply involved in our children’s lives without allowing them to become ‘me’ focused and without burning out ourselves.
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What to do next?
- Read about other ‘unhappiness traps’
